But there are some things you need to be realistic about if it’s going to.
First, you need to know what you’re comfortable with—and you need to be confident about telling him or exactly what that is.
(Um, probably don’t do this, you guys.) It wasn’t like I was stupid. But I didn’t have enough experience or wisdom (as opposed to intelligence) to completely understand what I was getting into.
I thought I was totally prepared to deal with the daily realities of having a boyfriend who was older than me by a decade-plus, which turned out to be less than correct.
However, Franklin seemed to know that Colden wouldn’t take his recommended advice, so he provided an alternative strategy: “That in all your amours you should prefer old women to young ones.” He included a list of eight items to back that statement up.
Well, a lot has changed in the roughly 270 years since our favorite kite-flying Founding Father wrote his letter, but some of his points are still relevant today, and the rest are… So for this list, we’re going to look at Ben’s advice and just for the hell of it, throw in a few of our own.
You missed our wild days and we're settled down now. We've learned a lot from our previous relationships.
This one’s not on Franklin’s list — what with women not even close to having the right to vote in the mid-1700s — but we live in somewhat more enlightened times.
But dating an older guy also brought up much more grown up issues.
Like how older boys often expect more out of a relationship than we had been used to.
Once you get to high school, a whole new world of possibilities opens up for you.
Suddenly you aren’t limited to dating the boys you’ve known since kindergarten—the same ones who put gum in your hair or threw spitballs at you from across the room.