By Linda Foster Medically reviewed by Cynthia Haines, MD If your partner has died, you know what deep grief is, what it’s like to be truly alone.You think that the void he or she left could never be filled. The very idea of starting a new relationship can be scary and fraught with feelings of guilt. Wouldn't the loved one you grieve for want you to find happiness in a new relationship when you're ready?ONE MARCH AFTERNOON IN 2010, I logged on to Facebook and glanced at my relationship status.My 42-year-old husband, Frank, had been dead for a month, but it still said "Married." Then, in a surreal, only-in-the-21st-century moment, I changed it to "Widowed." I hesitated, but I had to do it: No word but So, at age 39, after seven years of marriage, I was no longer married; I was a widow.I asked questions in oncologists' offices and took notes.
So the best advice is to proceed with caution and to make sure you’re ready before you take the plunge.You will have to struggle through many “firsts” without your partner by your side – from your first Christmas to your first birthday on your own.“It’s when the drama is over and you face the grey mudflats of the future that the real widowhood begins...Other WAY members feel ready to move on quite quickly – and are open to the possibility of finding love and a new partner. And only you will know when or if you feel ready to move on. Dating after you've been widowed can be fraught with perils, particularly in the early months of bereavement, when you may still be feeling very emotionally raw.You may not have been out on a first date for many years.