(FYI, we have a whole chapter on this in our new book “He’s Not That Complicated: How to Crack a Man’s Romantic Code to Get the Relationship You Want“) Even the kindest, most well-meaning, most empathetic guy won’t be able to satisfy a woman who acts needy the majority of the time. I would be pretty surprised if you never had a needy guy around you. Making someone else responsible for your emotions is a key ingredient in creating a toxic relationship type dynamic, so it’s very important to guard against doing that (as well as recognize when others are doing that towards you).
For those of you just joining us, my own variation on Vox Day’s brilliant Socio-Sexual Hierarchy involves dividing clear masculine “Alphas” into different sub-categories, based upon their focus.
like they’re entitled to them and their partner is cruelly withholding it.
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.
David K., Indiana, USA Delivers the value promised…
When I got to her office she locked the door and practically raped me!
He’s the man women want, without inention the center of attention. Here’s 25 characteristics that make a man the alpha. He can converse intelligently with the business man and the preacher. He’s tough, often quiet, composed, but can joke and shoot the shit with anyone.11. Whether he’s writing or speaking, he doesn’t speak to be hear, he speaks when he has something of value to say. He isn’t a wanderer, he’s going places; it’s so obvious that everyone around him can see it.13. He knows that nothing great is accomplished without hard work and a definite purpose.14. He understands that cetain things aren’t under his control. Though he worships the ground his lady walks on, he knows how to pick ’em.
Leave your additions (or subtractions) in the comments section.1. The alpha male knows the value of every word, he doesn’t talk simply to hear the sound of his own voice. He does everything he can to control what hecan, but doesn’t worry about what he can’t. The alpha male knows who he is, his values govern his life. He doesn’t go out of his way to please everyone because that’s a futile endeavor. He won’t be with a control-freak or a jealous woman.
Ken S., Miami, FL John, I've got to tell you I'm impressed.
Finding a Confident, Successful Man to Date Making a Relationship Last Community Q&A Many studies have shown that the dichotomy between alpha males (who are strong, confident, dominant, assertive, and successful) and beta males (who are weak, hesitant, submissive, and less successful in life) is a false one.