; literally: "Not Sincere, Don't Disturb", known in English as If You Are the One) is a Chinese dating game show hosted by Meng Fei.Loosely based on the Taken Out format, the show is produced by JSBC: Jiangsu Television and taped in Nanjing.
If You Are the One has been a ratings success in China and is now the highest-rated show for Jiangsu TV. The show is viewed internationally over the internet and satellite television.” The chauvinistic comments and the patriarchal, misogynistic standards led Quartz News to publish a video titled: “A new hit Chinese TV show proves sexist ideas still persist there.”Yet Jin Xing has told the audience that she is proud of the show: “I told you, I don’t host average shows”, and presented it as in line with her harsh but fair attitude.(She once told the Huffington Post: “My words aren’t like massage oil — they’re like acupuncture needles, they go right to the nerve and twist it.”) What has happened to Jin Xing, once an icon of progressive attitudes around gender and sexuality?In the show, parents sit on chairs that move forward when they approve of one of the single girls on stage.Emphasis is put on youth (under 30), good looks, simple past relationships, a good career, a gentle attitude and family-centered values. When a girl with a doctorate degree stepped on the stage, the following caption appeared on screens: “but where’s the good looks that we agreed on?