In my view, if you can't happily picture yourself married within a year, you're not in a position to date.
Third, once you decide that you are ready to date, look to God's Word to decide the kind of person to date, and evaluate potential dating partners on those criteria, rather than relying primarily on the world's treatment of ideas like "attraction" and "chemistry." I wrote at some length on this in my article, "Brother, You're Like a Six." For you busy singles with time for only one mildly irritating column per day, the summary is this: Pick a potential dating partner with an eye toward godly manhood and womanhood — with an eye toward who would make a good husband or wife, defined by those characteristics esteems in His Word, not the ones Hollywood likes.
Similar to the magnificence of Heaven, her worth can be likened to the “pearl of great price” that the man went in search of and gave up everything for (Matthew -46).
If we don’t know our own worth, then we may put ourselves in situations where we are looking for the guy taking us out to provide us with our sense of worth.
We may try to act or look a certain way so that our date likes us.
It’s not a bad thing to want to impress others, but our ultimate goal in dating shouldn’t be to please the guy who asked us out. God created women intentionally, unique within all of creation.
Saint John Paul II refers to the great dignity and mystery of the design of women as the “feminine genius” (Letter of Pope John Paul II to Women).
My goal is to simply pass on, from one teen to another, some thoughts I have developed from my observations, personal experience, and advice from others.So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.But after embracing and applying the first and greatest commandment, I have found that the . If you’re not a Christian — if you haven’t dealt with God before trying to date — you don’t have a chance of having a truly healthy Christian relationship with someone else.