Toward the end of the evening, I asked about relationships. Did they feel like they had to break up before graduation or were they planning to date long distance? All these students were bright, intelligent and extroverted. In another era, they would have been actively dating, but all of them reported that they had not dated at all while at college. I pressed them on the matter, and we started talking about the hookup culture.The more we talked about it, the more I detected both wistfulness and anxiety among the students over the thought of graduating without having developed the basic social courage to go on a date. When my faculty friends and I first decided to give a talk on dating and relationships, we met for weeks ahead of time, trying to anticipate all the controversial questions that might come up.Our events offer a fresh alternative to speed dating and matchmaking.We don't find anything romantic about whistles, name-tags or over-the-top party trimmings typically found at singles events so we have done away with them.We are regularly approached by venues looking to have the cheekiest in the world of dating to their spots.We say yes to a very few - limiting it to locales that are at once casually hip and comfortably relaxing.
ASPEN, Colo.—Usually when a group of middle-aged people gather to kvetch about twenty-somethings, it's about how they're always texting, or they spend too much time on the social medias, or they're boomeranging back to their parents' homes because they're afraid to just walk right up to a business owner, look him straight in the eye, and ask for a job.
Photograph: Caitlin Cunningham Kerry Cronin is a doctoral candidate in philosophy, a fellow at the Center for Student Formation, and associate director of the Lonergan Center, which is Boston College’s resource for studying the works and influences of the 20th century philosopher Bernard Lonergan, SJ.
Since April 2004, when she led a panel discussion on campus titled “Take Back the Date,” Cronin has emerged as a relationships guru of sorts, speaking to packed student audiences on such topics as “The Imperfect Art of Dating,” “Dating 101,” and “Sex and the Single Student.” She has also taken her message off campus, delivering talks at Fairfield and Case Western universities, among other schools.
Venues that have a dash of fun thrown in for good measure.
As a reporter for LA Talk said, “ I walked through the venue without even noticing the tables of daters; events are so chic and low key you might just walk right by.” We couldn’t have said it better ourselves. Much like a private club, not every dater is for us.