Q: I made the mistake of clicking on a little email window that popped up on my husband's computer.
I discovered that he's been surfing porn sites and going to chat rooms to have sex with other women online.
Second, there's the issue of expectations you two have not discussed.
This situation underlines the importance of checking in with one's spouse or partner about the various aspects of long-term relationships: finances, in-laws, jobs, children (if any), housekeeping, plans, and sex. So, even though you said your vows and have been together for a while, it sounds like the topic of online chatting and surfing porn sites never came up.
He said that having sex online was harmless and a way to "get off" without breaking his marriage vows (we've been married 10 years). A: This is a situation I see more and more often as the Internet becomes a staple in homes.The author of The Joy of Cybersex, Deborah Levine, had spent several years counseling college undergraduates at the Columbia University Health Education program. Like earlier safe-sex activists, Levine used bullet-point lists to introduce the sites her readers should know and to teach them the language that they would need to thrive on them.Levine encouraged them to use their computers to flirt, start online relationships, and explore their farthest-fetched fantasies without taking real-world risk. The pages she cited ran the gamut from tutorials for geeks, like to resources for free lovers like the Open Hearts Project and These services are strictly for making contacts for online sex. I’m an educated professional who enjoys travel, music and fine dining.This approach will take more time that simply paying for a cam girl, but the contacts you make will represent a long term source of free cybersex. Seeking open minded woman who loves intelligent conversation, either by text or voice using Skype.