He gives off a warm vibe of not being a player—he listens as you speak, and when you ask if he wants kids, he nods enthusiastically. Failing that, you'll know as soon as you have a major disagreement on something."I'm not just looking for a hookup," he'll say in between sips of wine. A man who truly wants to get married will work with you, while a commitment-phobic man will give up at the first sign of conflict. Because when you spend the majority of your adult life single, you like doing things your way, and these guys have major trouble with change.What ends up happening is he becomes dependent on her to be his emotional crutch.
That’s usually when they’ll come to me looking for answers. First, I can tell you right off the bat that he’s not a “commitment-phobe.” That term was invented by some psychologist to diagnose .0001% of the population for a very specific, extreme condition. Most likely scenario: The placeholder relationship. Once a guy starts leaning on a girl emotionally, he starts becoming attached to her on an emotional level.However, as with nearly every psychological diagnosis, it gets slapped on , and on and on and on. Now the girl who he only intended to keep around to keep from being lonely becomes this pseudo-girlfriend. it’s that he’s (and I cringe to type these words) When it comes to all things sex and companionship, a guy will say, “Sure, if you’re offering…” Problem is, guys typically have a terrible gauge on whether or not they’ll catch feelings for the girl.Ultimately, their sense of dread about making a commitment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the relationships they pursue are doomed.Sad though the situation is, if you’re hoping for long-term love but are dating a commitment-phobe you’re probably better off out of the relationship.