How well has your guy worked through the angst of his marriage ending? Some will try to alienate their children from their father as well as his new partner.Privacy in the home becomes difficult because angry mothers tend to interrogate their children when they return home from Dad's house.Divorce is a type of death and requires a process of grief, even when one may have desperately wanted the divorce. Most men live with guilt post-divorce, even when a divorce is more than warranted. BTW, if he's separated versus divorced, consider that a red flag. If he has a hostile relationship with his ex, you can expect a lot more complications than what will already naturally exist when dating or living with a guy who has kids.When there are kids involved, it's a major loss for them. They feel especially powerless and shameful if the mother of their children turned out to be not such a great mother. There's a reason for the expression, "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread." 2. Hostile ex-wives tend to extend their bitterness to the new woman in her ex's life.Some love to file court hearings at the drop of a hat and there is the potential for you, if you are living or ultimately married to him, to be pulled into these post-marital dramas. Many of you may have found out the hard way that your new love had lousy boundaries with his ex.If he has a friendly relationship with his ex, how friendly is it? The ex dropped by, came into the home and maybe even had a key! However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.