The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.
That isn’t true for my three girlfriends, but it’s true for me.
Ben is sensitive and tries hard to please Miriam, but when there's a problem that needs to be dealt with, he seems oblivious. Then Adam hides in the bushes and God asks him: Adam did you eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge that I commanded you not to eat? God doesn't say, "Adam, I understand -- she pushed you into it.
When she asks for input on a decision, he says, "It's up to you." He wants to be nice but he doesn't realize he's frustrating her. Like a lot of men these days, I received so many messages on what a man in a relationship should be, I was bewildered. If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. What happens next in the world's first relationship? They have one commandment: Don't eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. You're not responsible for what happened." Just the opposite.
“If that were true, they would be lowering their standards. In fact, she notes that older women are a lot more selective than older men and younger women are when it comes to picking a partner If anything, it’s more of a level playing field when it comes to midlife dating.
In a talk before boomers (you can watch it below), Adshade says older women really aren’t disadvantaged on the dating market.