Instead, what keeps this 27-year-old from approaching the cute girl across the room is a set of hypotheticals that most people don’t deal with.“My mind runs ahead to ‘the disclosure talk’ and then all the way down to, ‘What if we have sex and what if I give it to her?’” said Peckham, an IT professional who lives in Austin, Texas.Why on Earth would I knowingly choose to put myself in danger like that? But to me, it feels like you’re asking me to justify my value.The facts on herpes are actually quite clear when you do research online: herpes transmission is not that simple, particularly when both parties make an effort to use condoms, antivirals, dental dams, and so forth.Now that you know you have genital herpes, you're out of the dating game, right? There's no reason to stop looking for love and fun.Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch. The first date after a genital herpes diagnosis may seem a little strange, however.
The person most likely to give you herpes is the person who doesn’t know they have it in the first place.It might be better to break the news about herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you.Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that.According to one study of discordant couples (where one partner had genital herpes and the other did not), there was a significant delay in transmission when the positive partner disclosed his or her infection.The average time for transmission was 60 days for those who didn’t disclose, compared to 270 days for those who did—regardless of other factors like condom use and frequency of sexual activity.