Now, guys can collect phone numbers and discard them with no second thoughts.
It’s something that unfortunately happens each and every day – a woman falls head over heels for a guy only to find out that he’s actually a “player.” He isn’t all about her feelings at all – instead, he’s doing what he knows will work to get exactly what he wants before he moves on.
They use real life examples to illustrate the harm you could come to if you were with some of the other guys they know so that they can distract you from what they are doing. When his phone rings or beeps with a text message, he races for it. Obviously if you’re a woman that gets jealous when he so much as looks in the direction of the female species, I would skip over this point… I always hear alarm bells when I get approached by a guy and he manages to slip in something sexual, something far too over familiar very early into the conversation. When you talk to him in a public place, are his eyes wandering to other women as they walk by? Beware of men that don’t have even one friend amongst their crew that they can ‘look up to’.
If he is shady about taking or receiving calls, I would ask yourself what he is trying to hide. Men that are focused on getting a peek at your vagina rather than getting to know you, are Player Playa’s. This is a clear sign of disrespect but if it’s a consistent habit, it’s a sign of a guy that’s not interested in playing one on one. If your man has lots of friends that are shaggers, babyfathers with babymama drama, men that abuse, trust me when I say that he’s not learning very much that will do you any good. This shows a blatant disrespect for you and your time.
Yesterday, I blogged about the advice my male friends have for interpreting a guy's mixed signals. Now, I think it's obvious when someone texts you at midnight, asking what you're up to, that he's just looking for sex.
Today, as a follow-up, I want to talk today about another writer-lady's very smart advice on how to determine whether or not a guy is a player. But players will also send more innocent-seeming texts, saying stuff like, "Hey — spontaneous invite — wanna grab dinner tonight? I'm free tonight but will probably have to work late through the weekend. " While this kind of informality might come off as charming or enthusiastic, I think you should never agree to a last-minute plan unless you've already been on multiple dates with a guy — or unless you feel confident that he is pretty into you. It will make you uncomfortable or it will seem like a deviation from his typical behavior or both.
I’m inclined to think it might be the most important of human emotions. As for your question, I really had to rack my brain back to a time when I had a profile on every dating site out there. And I have no doubt that a number of them were convinced that I was a player. It may have absolutely no connection to his intentions.
Moral of the story is that I’ve gone out with hundreds of women since I started dating online in 1997.
"I am currently located in (alleged location)," obviously the result of a poor mail merge and the restrictions on their profile say that you can only contact them if you are in a country that is different than that location-give me a break!
Certainly, I think chances are very high that any guy who is being overly persistent about sex is most likely a douchebag, no matter how incredibly into you he seems — and I speak from unhappy experience.
As for the stuff about texting: If he's doing any — or all three of those things — and you're not sure where you stand with him, or something seems not quite right, I'd be on guard.
I fell in love with a woman who wrote to me on JDate in 2005.
In the past, we’d get a phone number at a bar and it would be the highlight of our week.