The unresolved past comes into play again and again, and there’s nothing the avoider can do about it if they are not conscious of the feelings. But the toxic effects surface in situations involving intimacy, aggression, abandonment, and fear.Thus, such problems should not be ignored, as physical intimacy issues can put serious strain on a relationship.My problem is that every guy I go out with ends up finding me very sexy and they always fall in love too fast.Even with someone they love, sex addicts are “intimacy disabled”, that is they are fearful of sharing their true selves with another person and are therefore unable to share one or more aspects of their true selves.They are unhappy and lonely and desperately want to “connect”.
This means that while there’s clearly a lot of passion between the two of you, there’s also compassion.
It is more than just bad choices, poor judgment or a lack of adequate information.
It is a deeper problem and that is why it is termed and intimacy .
Like the now cliché lyric says, they are “looking for love in all the wrong places”.
But the solution to the problem does not lie outside of them.