Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:“How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn’t really need to. It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.But girls are an entirely different kind of animal.Women aren’t a simple stroll in the park; women are an uphill climb in dangerous weather conditions. Also, lesbian culture, by nature, is extremely elusive.Also given how many closets most gay women live with, only a miniscule percentage ever really come out.
I wondered: in the sales-y world of the online profile, was there something I could do to get more responders who were on a similar page as me?
For me, as a woman over 40, online dating was a turning point in my own comeback.
However, I quickly realized that online dating brought some of the same challenges as good ol’ fashioned meet-in-the-real-world-dating.
We aren’t like gay men who shamelessly advertise incessant fabulous gay parties all over the Internet.
(Please, dear god, make me a gay man in my next life).