A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.– – –See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World– – –One of the more rewarding things my Partner Jacqueline and I do is speak to cancer survivors and their partners around the country about regaining intimacy in the face of their cancer.Last Wednesday evening I was speaking to such a group in the wonderful town of Blue Ash, Ohio.In sex, just like sports, it pays to play by the rules. In football, officials moved the restraining line from the 30-yard line to the 35, with the intention of increasing touchbacks. Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.And in basketball, officials dumped the no-dunk rule after fans complained that it made play less exciting. Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.
And then you learn that the same year you graduated college, he was wrapping up his freshman year—of high school.
One of the men who showed up, about my age and suffering from impotence, shared that he pretty much has given up any hope of being with a woman for the rest of his life.
His thinking was what woman would ever want to be with a man who You could see the pain of resignation on his face.
And that’s when this meeting took an interesting turn…First, some back story, before we get to that unexpected twist that happened at the end of my talk.
As a fully impotent cancer survivor with a female partner, we have been speaking to men, women and couples about sex, intimacy and relationships for years.