The first reaction in your mind is going to be self-protective, accompanied by fear.
When you discover your husband using online dating sites, you will automatically imagine the worst, that he is following through and is probably meeting other women. That is probably not happening, and it is not too late for your marriage, even if it is. Reactions, as you recall from biology, are instinctive responses with one purpose: to save your life.
I'm scared this might be the end of our perfect love." Oof. I should point out that our friends at How About We do have services for couples, not just singles…but I can't really explain away Tinder, so I think you're right to be concerned.
That said, I don't necessarily think this spells certain doom for your relationship.
Here's how I think you should do it…First of all, I think you're right to not have this conversation over the phone.Getting him to confess his sins and change his ways is the wrong approach. We get emails all the time through our free question portal from women who confronted their husbands.Who do you know who would not react in a negative, or destructive way?I'm scared to argue over the phone about this so I investigated my leads and found his profile to be deactivated but that still doesn't necessarily demonstrate his intentions on those sites.I'll be seeing him in less than a week for the first time in months to celebrate our four-year anniversary, and I don't know what to do and how I should address it assuming I even mention it.