Politely decline online dating

One, when in Rome, and two, frankly it’s a lot easier than responding and rejecting, something I have always been very bad at and extremely uneasy doing.

If you get approached by someone you don’t find attractive, for whatever reason, you simply hit delete and move on. I began adapting to these odd new cultural mores, for a couple of reasons.

So if you're texting me in the first place, I'm probably going to say yes.

If it's any date other than the first one, I will say no and tell them why, in the way that I'd want to be told—I'm not feeling it going anywhere but thanks for your time, etc.

Contrary to what many men believe, most women don’t enjoy turning someone down. Because of this, women try to reject others “gently” to protect themselves.

Unfortunately, some men will take their pain out on others through guilt tripping, verbal attacks, and even physical violence.

What women need to do is try and limit the negative impact of their rejection. The more we invest our emotions or time in something, the more attached we become.

I also remember sending notes to women I found interesting and getting absolutely no reply at all. I may not even notice that whomever she was didn’t reply.

These women find something potentially valuable about me, and many of them clearly work as hard on their approach messages as I do on mine, trying to appeal to something in my profile that struck them, working to connect the dots and sell me on the idea that they’re really worth my while.

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