The relationship can be in the very first throes, a committed relationship or even marriage, regardless, men will still feel the need to pull away from time to time.
As soon as the shift happens, we feel it instantly.
Sometimes the chasing/pulling away gets so extreme that it sours the whole relationship 3) They get angry and promise to not make the first move. He doesn’t care what people think and is never shy about public affection when we’re at school (I’m getting my MBA, remember? He lets me in on his crazy stream of conscious thoughts. Also, one of the draw backs of dating in business school is that you see your partner all the time. I’m sounding like one of those cheesy romantic self-help books but it’s true, I’ve had this epiphany and I wanted to share it.
But, it’s also important to be aware that sometimes men do pull away and don’t come back—like when he realizes he doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. that he has certainly pulled away from a relationship because he had doubts.
It can be something as simple as a change in behaviour or they may stop communicating altogether.
It as at this stage that us women feel hurt slightly and feel the need to move closer towards the male, we may even chase them determined to find out what the problem is.
In fact, I asked men why they might pull away emotionally from a relationship, and this is what they said. Gray reassures women in his book that men automatically alternate between intimacy and autonomy.
When allowed to pull back, men will naturally return to whatever level of intimacy was there when he stretched away.