This is the honeymoon stage, when romance and intense attraction bond a couple together and lead to commitment.In retrospect, it often seems as short-lived as springtime-by two years, most couples have usually lost that initial magic, though this can vary by couple.Even if you’re marrying later in life, or for the second time, nature supplies these delicious bursts of neurotransmitters to make you bond.Couples not only frolic and fall madly in love in the passion stage – they begin to establish the trust, respect and emotional intimacy that will support their relationship forever.We may seem to jump back and forth through the stages when we are in the relationship, but the general stages become clearer when we gain some distance and perspective.
Trying to play the “cool card” when you are anything but, isn’t going to bring him closer.
Sometimes, you have to sit back and reflect on your relationship to determine its state.
Is it in good standing or are there some red flags to be concerned about?
Are you, instead, trying your best to show him what a great catch you are by being the sweet, fun-time, easy-breezy gal on the outside (even if you are crumbling with worry and insecurity on this inside)?
Putting the man in front of your feelings and needs may seem like the right thing to do at the beginning of a relationship (hey, don’t we all have irrational fears that aren’t attractive? Just because you don’t want to feel insecure, needy, uncomfortable and scared, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling that way.