As one quote puts it, “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together the same direction.”If the only relationships you’ve witnessed have been the “suffocating” kind, remember that your relationship doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
Still, I’m really surprised at how ineffective e Harmony has proven to be. I was seeing someone “in real life” for about a month, so my matches weren’t a high priority. I even tinkered with my settings at one point and received a handful of matches in the 60 mile range. Being able to select the traits I want in a man only amplifies that.I struggled to reconcile my desire for a relationship with my desire for independence, the two of which I’d been told (inaccurately) were at odds with one another.If you’re a fellow independent with mixed feelings about the dating scene, this short “guide” is for you.I love young adult fiction that tells it like it is, no covering up the feelings when you lose someone, no easy answers to complicated questions, just honest human interaction. Sometimes relationship writers—including me—paint with too broad a brush.