It’s become so easy and so shallow, and you end up updating your Facebook relationship status quite a bit more frequently than you’d like.
Social media makes it look like you’re missing out on something wonderful when you see your friends posting couples pictures and your 400 photos are either of your lunch or the endless amount of wine you drink.
Big, but you’re still in the Channing Tatum and ridiculously good looks phase.You know the ol’ “wait 3 days after the date to text” rule, right? Unfortunately, the reality is we lose control when we play by these rules because we end up sitting around wondering what the hell is going on?! And then comes the mind fuck: This is FREAKING EXHAUSTING! How much control can you possibly feel you have when you’re playing Russian Roulette with your trigger-happy, cynical, frustrated, negative mind games?? The truth is, it’s When we’re into a guy and he texts “Good Morning,” we swoon, we get butterflies, we tell our girlfriends in a squeally (a.k.a. But when a dude we’re NOT interested in texts “Good Morning,” we bitch, ignore it, feel imposed upon, and peer out our window looking for his stalker ass. If you texted every day prior, this sets a foundation; a test point if you will. Unfortunately, my generation and younger ones don’t seem to have as many of these gentleman available. up to the day of my lonely, cat-lady, old-age death. We don’t know who created it or when, but it’s a universal truth; a biblical commandment; a 3-strikes you’re out law. What I’m referring to here is the texting pattern that was developed PRIOR to the first date. Someone who makes me feel he has things under control.The alternative to this bullshit is, of course, to go ahead and text first. You end up looking desperate, lonely, obsessed, cat-lady-like, too eager, impatient, stalker-esk? If the date goes well, you would expect the texting to increase from this point. They’re considered “traditional” and “old school.” But, perhaps you did go on a date with a “traditional man” and mind games are now commencing. These gentlemen may be more inclined to calling, which means you can simply re-read this article and replace to get the same point. I don’t have THE answer to this problem, because the answer actually changes depending on the connection, your emotional status, and your expectations prior to and after the date. Or, perhaps the romance movies are NOT bullshitting us and the right one will text at the right time. What complicates matters more are pre-existing patterns, modern gender roles, and generational differences. A man who’s self-confidence equals or may even overshadow my own.