While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.And with today’s modern attitudes toward dating, we’re tempted to look to serve ourselves first before thinking of the needs of others.All these factors have led to a sharp decrease in the idea of “courtship” as opposed to dating.There are lively debates around courting vs dating for Christian singles to consider.
It’s time for Christians to resurrect the idea of courting and redefine what godly relationships should look like. God instructs us to “.be yoked together with unbelievers..” (2 Corinthians , NIV).Last week, I asked you to give me your most burning love questions. More than 100 of you left us a comment with a question about love and romance. Mars asked, “I hear the word ‘courting’ a lot in opposition to ‘dating.’ What are the differences between the two and which relationship is the better of the two? Courtship and dating are words that are thrown around a lot on this blog.I think Mars is right, that it is important that we know if there’s a difference between the courtship and dating and understand if one is better than the other when placed through the filter of God’s Word. For many, courtship feels like an old-fashioned word that conjures up images of a couple sitting in a living room under the watchful eye of parents until the fella gets down on one knee and proposes. Song of Solomon 8:4 says, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” In fact, this statement is repeated three times throughout the book Song of Solomon. Pursuing romantic intimacy before marriage is a real possibility opens you up to all kind of struggles. Involving your parents in your romantic relationships is a great way to honor them and to make sure that your plans for your love life line up with theirs.How It Starts Courtship doesn’t start with a first date or even with an introduction by a mutual friend.It actually starts much earlier than that with each individual deciding on their intentions.