After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.
I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.
Why would he want to invite someone in who minimizes him and doesn’t appreciate him.
Other than true masochists, guys who have choice don’t want this.
on Saturday mornings, you’re actually going to be introduced to his friends as 0Everybody lies a little bit.
Like, hey, you’re not just going to be the girl who leaves his place in last night’s outfit at 10 a.m.
Women won’t stop at your face; we’ll label all of you as that.
I’m not talking about the woman you’re too scared to talk to.
She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it. While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.